A Love Letter From Your Unvaccinated Friend

These are my own opinions and experiences and do not reflect anyone’s viewpoints but mine — Jessica Morgan.

unvaccinated“Hi, I’m Jessica, and I have not received the COVID vaccine and do not plan to in the future.”

I realize by saying this publicly, I have opened up myself, along with my family, to scrutiny, discrimination, and judgment. I can only imagine what the comment section of this blog will look like in the first few hours of this post. I know there will be a Facebook and Instagram disclaimer popped on this because of the words mentioned here. But I would like everyone to take a deep breath and relax. This isn’t how we started.

Nine years ago (well, almost 10 now!), Jacksonville Moms Blog was founded by two moms who saw a need for connecting moms in Jacksonville. I happen to be one of the original Jacksonvillians invited to join the team. In those years, I have shared my weight struggle, breaking my son of his pacifier habit, choosing a school for my kindergartner, taking kids to the beach, on road trips, Black Friday shopping, turning 40, and many more — almost 100 personal stories from yours truly. I have met readers in person who have related to my blog posts, and it is so flattering and humbling to have been given a voice by Jacksonville Mom. It has allowed me many new opportunities, including numerous news segments and even some airtime on Howard Stern for my April Fools Day antics. I’m sure you’re thinking, “What’s the point of your trip down memory lane, Jes?” Hold on, I’m getting there.

In the spring of 2020, none of us could have predicted what was happening to the world, and we all dealt with the stress of illness and isolation in different ways. Lots of us became home bakers, plant hoarders, and Tiger King and Hamilton addicts. Some of us started to question things — and therein is where the divide began.

I am here to simply state that I, and others who are unvaccinated, are the same people we were in March 2020. There are many reasons why I have remained unvaccinated. The main reason is that I have had the virus and recovered. I believe in natural immunity and have seen it play out in my situation. I am aware that the data regarding natural immunity is conflicting — but again, I am speaking for myself and the decisions I am making as an adult. I believe that personal medical decisions are just that — personal. I’m still the fat, funny Jacksonville Mom that I was. I hate that the world has divided us and so many feel the need to put a vaccination status above everything.

I am absolutely fine with my friends being vaccinated. I work with vaccinated people, vacation with them, and even hug them. Vaccines are a personal choice. But I do not agree with forcing someone to put something in their body that they don’t want there. That’s as simple as I can say it.

We are your neighbors, co-workers, friends, and family. We laugh at the same jokes, watch the same bad TV, and drink way too much coffee. We have simply made a different medical decision.

I’ve read many, many posts from Jacksonville Mom about giving each other grace and embracing our differences — and especially loving our kids unconditionally without judgment. I’ll continue to love my people hard and reserve the judgment for things like wearing white after Labor Day.

I hope I have provided a little perspective from the other side. We are all moms, doing the best we can, with the information we have at the time.

Please be nice to each other. If the last 20 months have shown us anything, it is that our lives can change instantly and that it is shorter than we think.

Love,
Your non-hugging unvaxxed friend

Jessica was born in the “Bold New City of the South" and loves her some Jacksonville. Not only is J-Ville the place where she was raised with her twin brother, but is it also where she met and married her super-handy hubby, Melvin. Together they have a lovely daughter named Lily and a very competitive son, Henry. Professionally, Jessica spends her days as the Activities Director at Jacksonville Golf & Country Club,- because her target audience is 5-11 year old children. Jessica has appeared on local television discussing topics ranging from Black Friday to couponing, - dirty hair, consignment sales and summer camps. Jessica enjoys showing up to parties in costume, Florida Gator Football, all things Disney, singing show tunes, making fudge, big ugly shelter dogs, reading Emily Post and writing in cursive. Keep up with all Jessica's antics at www.JessicaJacksonville.com

9 COMMENTS

  1. Thank you for your perspective!
    You are absolutely right, I am mostly the same person I was before, making mostly the same decisions I was making before 2020. I also believe in natural immunity and the power we individually have over our health. I am making best choices to set my body up for natural resilience, which largely includes minimizing the toxin burden imposed on my body.
    I wish all people well and best health, whatever that looks like to them.

  2. I love this and appreciate an honest, vulnerable post. But is it really vulnerable to be yourself? Maybe to some, maybe not to others. But to see a post that is actually different from what so many others are sharing, is refreshing. Too many times over the past almost 2 yrs, posts have been taken down and comments turned off because the moms that come to this page to bounce ideas off each other, to gain information and ask for advice have seemingly forgotten that it is not kind to be judgmental of those who disagree with them. I’m certain that if there’s a poll on who makes the best coffee or sushi or donuts was put up, it would always be split. But having differences and other opinions is what makes us us. To shame someone for that is not helpful, nor is it graceful. So to have one of the “originals” speak out and share that they do not agree with some things – particularly vax/mask/etc, is great to see. We need the diversity, in ideas particularly, to solidify us. Thank you, Jax Moms for sharing this and thank you, Jessica Morgan, for speaking your truth.

  3. Medical decisions are personal until they negatively impact others. Vaccination is a deciding factor for me and who I choose to spend time with. It can be a matter of life and death. I won’t risk that for myself, my 3 year old grandchild who can’t be vaccinated or the elderly and vulnerable people I come in contact with. I hope you and your family stay healthy.

  4. I hear the idea of your post, but I would also like to see contributors post a “love letter from your Vaccinated friend” to keep the sides neutral.

    If I missed that, sorry, but maybe post them together.

  5. I have followed this group since they were Jacksonville Moms Blog and I think I’ve officially outgrown Jacksonville Mom. This post isn’t relateable. This is a disappointment to see when we are still in the thick of this covid crap. Announcing that you won’t do the bare minimim to combat this thing we are all so tired of dealing with isn’t brave. It’s defeating, a turn off, and frankly, self centered. I truly hope you stay healthy and safe and never, ever know the pain of losing loved ones to covid like my family has.

  6. Thank you for your fair and balanced perspective – yes, we are all different and we all make different decisions on what we feel is right for us and our families. If we aren’t cookie cutter in the rest, why on earth would we think one decision is right for all in this? Thank you for reminding – and showing how to offer grace to both sides of the fence.

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