I’ve never lacked confidence. I’m not humble or apologetic. I often say that people who think that “life isn’t a competition” are probably in second place; I use the hashtag #gobigorgohome. In 2011, I was 220 lbs., and today I am 145 lbs. Why does that matter? No really, I’m asking that question, why does it matter in today’s society whether I’m a fat mom or a skinny one?
A healthier Jessica is better than an unhealthy one. And I’ll admit, I have more energy, eat better, and exercise now. But again, I ask, what’s the big deal? My confidence hasn’t changed–I’m still as confident as ever. And more importantly, I am very comfortable in my skin.
My husband and I feel that besides teaching our daughter to love God and treat others as she wants to be treated, self-confidence is essential to success in life. A confident girl holds the golden ticket; she will not be easily influenced by kids at school and will trust her instincts.
Our little ones hear us lamenting about our muffin tops and joking about our weight. I remember my mom going to Weight Watchers meetings and drinking Slim Fast shakes. I think it is confusing for a young girl to see her parents doing these things. On the flip side, I do not think that a girl who sees her mom going for a run or joining her friends in the park for a Stroller Strength class thinks her mom is doing so because she is a “fatty.”
As moms, we have an obligation to our daughters to make sure they view their bodies with awe and wonderment. They should not only hear us preach confidence and positive self-image, but also see us practice it ourselves. They should not hear the word “diet” from us. Looking to lose weight? See your doctor first. Don’t put yourself down in front of your kids.
Teach your little ones that they are marvelous and fascinating persons, inside and out. Tell them they are unique in the entire world. And self-confidence should NEVER be based on appearance. The best role model our girls have is their mommas. So fat or skinny, let them know you think you are fabulous and think they are, too. What, you don’t think you are fabulous? Well, shame on you! Because all you have to do is look at that little person you are raising to see how wonderful you are.