When Your Teen Asks, Say YES!

teen“Can we get lunch on the way home?” my teenage daughter texts me on an early release day.

“Yes, that’s fine,” I reply, excited she’s actually using her phone to communicate with her mother.

We spend lunch watching stupid dance videos on Instagram and laughing together.

“Do you want to watch Gilmore Girls?” she asks another night after I get home from a work event at 9:45. No, I’m tired and peopled-out and ready for a shower and bed. But I do. And we scream at the TV together when Rory kisses Dean.

The best advice for the teenage years I’ve gotten so far is this: When your teen asks, say yes!

Not YES to a new car or parties with underage drinking or creepy social media apps or the prom dress that looks like a bikini. But YES to anything where you can be in the same space as them at the same time and have a conversation without a screen or door between your faces.

Yes to breakfast. Yes to “Can I practice driving?” Yes to “Want to watch the Barbie movie?” Even yes to “Will you drive me to so-and-so’s house,” because it’s at least time in the car together.

Say YES. Even when you don’t want to, or you’re tired, or not hungry, or don’t have time.

Soon enough there won’t be time left to do any of these things; with only three years of high school left, I don’t want to regret saying “no” at all over the next few years if I can help it.

After the next few years, who knows when she’ll ask me again? Right now I am in my season of YES. And I intend to make the most of it!

Meg Sacks
Meg is a working mom of four and an avid community volunteer. She has worked in corporate communications and media relations for more than 18 years, for a Fortune 500 company as well as a non-profit. She took some time off to enjoy life as a stay at home mom after the birth of her first child in 2008. Her sweet, introverted daughter, was excited to welcome her baby brother in 2013, and then boy/girl twins joined the family in 2016. Meg finds being an “office mama” a constant balancing act and never-ending challenge but enjoys the opportunities it offers her for personal growth. A Virginia girl at heart, she loves Florida’s warm weather, the great quality of life Jacksonville offers her family.


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