Actually, Rachel Hollis, We ALL Saw That Coming

Photo courtesy of Rachel Hollis’ Instagram.

This week, everyone’s (least?) favorite author and influencer announced that she has a new book being released next month. And, as only Rachel Hollis can do, she managed to make a genuinely emotional, traumatic topic like divorce seem almost as shallow as a kiddie pool.

Earlier this summer — in June, specifically — Hollis announced she and her husband were getting a divorce. They share four children and are co-partners in her successful multimedia company. In her Instagram announcement, she wrote, “Guys, I have some hard news to share and the honest truth is, I have no idea how someone announces something like this, so I’m just going to say it. Dave and I have made the incredibly difficult decision to end our marriage,” adding, “We are choosing joy — even though, I’ll be honest, the last month has been one of the most awful of our lives. I want to be strong and bold and optimistic for you now, but every ounce of my energy is reserved in being those things for my children.”

She finished her post by pleading for everyone to respect the couple’s privacy as they navigate through this difficult time and try to figure out what the next chapter of their life would look like. Understandable, right? Their marriage didn’t work out, and that’s nothing to be ashamed of. Y’all, just a friendly reminder that this all went down in June. Now, just two short months later, Hollis has let us in on what the next chapter of what their life entails. And it’s completely typical for her brand.

Recently on Good Morning America, Hollis made an appearance to announce her next book, a 240-page venture titled, Didn’t See THAT Coming. And on Instagram, she wrote:

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This morning my friends at @goodmorningamerica made a big announcement for me… the cover of my next book!! 😭 Here’s an excerpt: “I set out to write this book because I have survived crisis and grief many times and I believed I might have something to share that could help others walk through it. I wrote the first draft as a sort of Sherpa, believing I could help guide you over the mountain of grief. Now I find myself back inside grief and editing from an entirely different perspective than the one from which I wrote. I’m no longer a Sherpa, leading from the front—now I’m also trudging through it with you, which means this book has the unique duality of being a creation both outside and inside of pain. As someone who lives by a plan, who has imagined in detail the next two decades of my life and how they might play out, I can honestly tell you, I never planned for the end of my marriage. Honestly? The fact that I didn’t see this or plan for it makes me feel like an idiot. I will add a bit more honesty and tell you something in confidence. I considered pushing this book away or scrapping the idea altogether. I didn’t think I was ready—I wasn’t sure I’d ever be ready. I questioned whether I could teach and learn at the same time— because this lesson, this work, feels like the hardest I’ve ever done. Even though the words were written, even though I believed they could be helpful to someone—I knew it was impossible to keep this book in its original form without acknowledging the fresh destruction I find myself in. And, the idea of writing about something so new goes against everything I have believed about my work. There’s an old expression that says we should teach or write or share only from our scars, never from our wounds, and I have lived by it. Meaning, I have been intentional about never processing the hard parts of life with you but instead have only ever shared what has been effective for me after I’ve done the work. But here we are. Everything feels fragile and scrubbed raw. Everything feels unreal and uncertain. Everything feels absent of all that matters and simultaneously too big to carry.” Didn’t See That Coming is out on September 29th. 🤟🏻

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The idea that Rachel Hollis, of all people, has any desire to not use something for attention and money would be surprising — that’s literally how she built her empire. It would ordinarily seem callous or inappropriate to insinuate that as soon as Hollis decided to divorce her husband she was already seeing dollar signs, but just two months later, here we are. She is broadcasting not only her pain, but the pain of her ex-husband and of her children, and she appears to be promoting it to garner more book sales. She’s unironically telling us she’s saying something “in confidence,” on a public Instagram post that will be seen by literally millions of people — while grinning alongside the caption saying that she’s destroyed, too.

And that’s not all — she even went so far as to compare herself to a sherpa in the process. For those unfamiliar, “sherpa” is not just a job description; it’s an actual ethnicity, of people indigenous to Nepal and the Himalayas. Not only does she seem to be trying on an ethnicity to make a point, but she’s also already a known plagiarizer, including of black women (even from Maya Angelou!) without giving them proper credit or attribution for their work.

Rachel Hollis seems to encapsulate some of the less desirable parts of confessional culture. This idea that we can air out all of our dirty laundry, under the pretense of “helping” people, and make money doing so can be harmful for others. Also, according to her podcast, Hollis’ ex-husband is evidently not even the one who asked for the divorce. Does that mean her reasons for doing so aren’t valid? Not necessarily, but her rush to exploit that decision and profit off of it really does make it seem a lot more suspicious.

Anyway, here’s Rachel, acting as if she has advice or words of wisdom on surviving a divorce when she’s still going through the divorce. If there’s anything that needs to be said, it’s this: Girl, tell the truth. This feels like nothing more than a cash grab, a quick way to publicize her current situation and make an easy buck. And sadly, her fans will eat it up without a thought of how inappropriate it is, or how painful it will be for the people affected. Her children will read this book one day. So will her ex-husband. So will their families. Does any of that matter, or is it all worth being sacrificed to make money? What she’s doing isn’t healthy for her, it’s not healthy for her family, and it’s not healthy for her followers. But perhaps the saddest part of all is how utterly unsurprising it is.

Cassy Fiano-Chesser is a Jacksonville native and mom to six kids. Her husband is a Marine Corps veteran and Purple Heart recipient. She works from home as a blogger and a freelance writer, and they currently live in the Argyle area of Jacksonville. Benjamin is their oldest, born in 2011, and he loves being a big brother. Wyatt was born in 2012, and he has Down syndrome. Ivy came next, in 2013, followed by Clara, born in 2015, who is a diva-with-a-capital-D. Rounding out the brood is Felicity, born in 2017, and Lilly, born in 2007. They love discovering things to do on the First Coast and going on family adventures, as well as cheering on the Jumbo Shrimp and the Icemen.

51 COMMENTS

  1. Yep. I completely agree. Everyone (else) saw this coming. I am amazed at how people continue to think she has anything of value to add to their lives. SMH. At least some people are willing to call a spade, a spade.

  2. I don’t believe the author of this article read the book. Regardless of whether you like the book you should read it before you write an article being critical of it.

    • The author the article is just saying she’s giving advice on getting through a divorce she hasn’t been through yet. So which one you wanna be? The pot or the kettle?

  3. I can tell from the article that the author of this article didn’t actually read the book. Regardless of whether you like the author you should read it before you write an article being critical of it.

  4. The author of this article is a sad, sad woman. Jealous? Maybe? I hope life gets better for her. I could feel the heavy pettiness seeping through every line of her melancholic prose.

  5. Well, after what I just read, man, what I just read… I read this article, I started digging around, Researching, looking into the books. Mixed messages is what I understood from Rachel. I find Rachel to definitely be likable. But indeed the message is mixed. So, I understood why the writer and other critics of Ms Hollis finds Ms Hollis, just not quite, spot on. Rather, she has been in LA way too long. Come back to the real world and your whole world shakes and crumbles. That is what happened. I hope Ms Hollis has better days ahead of her and does find growth because she is so likable. Every one makes mistakes, but to declare yourself a christian, but then to denounce one of the fundamental core values and to scramble it up, is just as bad as a false prophet. It could be unintended as there is an extremely fine line between pulling up the boot straps to be vigilent and diligent , accountable, and responsible. I do get it sometimes to find greatness you have press forward and put the work in. God’s not just going to let it fall in your lap. But to say, to claim that it is all with in you, such as “Hollis does believe all things are possible, she leaves God out of her equation” as stated by Rebecca Hastings in article, In Rachel Hollis’ Self-Help Empire, God Is Just an Accessory CULTURE. True believers of Christ truely believe they do not, and will not follow MAN, they follow GOD and CHRIST and not the ways of men, and the ways of Heavenly Almighty. So, unfortunately, by a technicality this makes Hollis books Anti- Christ. The moment you rephrase a phrase of God with out the host of spirits or god almighty it becomes anti-Christ by technicality. I am not ditching her, I am providing the facts. Its possible this was unintentional. I have made stupid, not- fully -thought- out mistakes. Every one makes mistakes and Ms. Hollis deserves forgiveness and second chances, but how much would there be with repeater offenses. I would like to add, if you have ever had some sort of dealings with LA or Hollywood, it is very much about rewriting history and make it into something that it never was. The culture from this area have been trying to rewrite the Lord’s word, culture, and project true believers of Jesus Christ as evil. Unfortunately, this is the ground of a cult and this area is prime for this very function. There is a war against good and evil, God clearly expresses what is right and wrong and clearly identifies the way of the wicked but sometimes I do wish it was expressed as to why these things are labeled wicked way and holy ways. Again, I am not saying not to be kind, because of course Jesus wants us to love our neighbor as thy self. But their is the Vigilant and Diligent Christian than understands what can happen with a twisted understanding of what it is to be Christian. Their is a perversion of the meaning, just as their is a perversions of the meaning of Peace. If you like to know more about what is meant by this their is a great break down view Tom Horn’s or Chuck Missler’s Research or James Kroll as they break down the word. Just do your own homework before you making an opinion, as the wrong path will deceive you. Don’t be deceived by false prophets and nor fall for deceptive spirits. Again a bunch of information that is not accurately discussed in culture for the purposes of man to twist the true word, the very spirit of man that has infiltrated churches with evil intentions to those that may need God more than ever, but either instead MAN has turned his back on his brother or claim to be Godly when doing a very wicked deed (Not talking about my true Christian brothers and sisters, but those with evil intentions inside of being part of a church). Yes, I said it, there are real, live TRUE CREEPERS (my children would have expressed or recited after Minecraft).
    This begin the other persons thought patterns to begin to believes that this must have been GOD that caused this, and the whole evil, viscous, deceptive cycle starts over. No, that is the EVIL in men. Okay, so maybe I went to far into this rhetoric, but why not… and maybe ask yourself, why, is this so?

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