My Daughter Didn’t Go to TSwift, and OMG, She’s Fine

Taylor Swift“Alright, here I go,” said my 14-year-old with an eye roll as she got out of the car at morning drop off the Monday after Taylor Swift’s Tampa concerts and corresponding build-up mania at school.

“Be nice! You’d be excited to share, too, if you’d gone,” I told her.

“Mom. I know.” Eye roll. Door slam.

Love teenagers.

The whole week before, I’d scrolled Facebook and Instagram, stunned at the number of people I knew who had gotten tickets, bought fun clothes, dressed up with their kids, and trekked to Tampa. Moms and teachers. Small business owner mamas. Every other photo in my feed was the concert. And, honestly, it looked amazing.

I was overcome with mom guilt. I scrolled, and I began to search for tickets. $800 apiece with no stage view. $1,200 apiece from the nosebleeds. $6,000 apiece from the floor.


I looked at Atlanta. I looked at Houston. I looked at L.A. (like I was buying a plane ticket on top of it all.) Nope, nope, nope, nope…

It started slowly. My daughter would put on a Taylor song or two in the car on the way home from school, at a very low volume. I told her she could turn it up because I couldn’t even hear it (and my Taylor Swift knowledge doesn’t go much beyond “Tear Drops on My Guitar” and “Shake It Off”). Then she’d post pictures from The Eras Tour on her IG stories with no comment. Then I asked her on the way home a week before the concert when she was singing to the music if she wanted to go and she quietly said, “Well, it would have been fun, Mom.”

I was floored, honestly. It never, ever occurred to me she would have wanted to go. Maybe because I’m definitely not and never have been a concert person (the last one being Ben Harper in 2004). Maybe because the first time she went to a concert she texted me very upset it was so loud and she wanted to go home, even though she was in St. Augustine at her BFF’s birthday celebration. (Paper napkins helped.) She generally hates chaos, hates noise, and doesn’t like when things are overwhelming. So it never crossed my mind back in November to even try to get tickets. Had she asked, I would of course have tried.

But now they were insanely expensive. I told her, “Honey, I’m sorry, they’re just so expensive now. You’re doing this big program this summer we’ve already paid for. It’s just not worth the price.” She just smiled and said, “I know, Mama. It’s okay.”

She didn’t go to Taylor Swift. And the main reason is because honestly, it never occurred to me that she would have wanted to in the first place. And for that, I do feel badly. But I’ll get over it, about as quickly as the photos fade from my social feeds. And it seems she already has.

Meg Sacks
Meg is a working mom of four and an avid community volunteer. She has worked in corporate communications and media relations for more than 18 years, for a Fortune 500 company as well as a non-profit. She took some time off to enjoy life as a stay at home mom after the birth of her first child in 2008. Her sweet, introverted daughter, was excited to welcome her baby brother in 2013, and then boy/girl twins joined the family in 2016. Meg finds being an “office mama” a constant balancing act and never-ending challenge but enjoys the opportunities it offers her for personal growth. A Virginia girl at heart, she loves Florida’s warm weather, the great quality of life Jacksonville offers her family.


  1. Hi I just wanted to put this out there for you. It seems like your ok with not going and she is too and that’s great if that’s what you want to do. But, just in case, I wanted to say, keep checking those tickets, they do come down, it’s usually closer to the show which is difficult if you have to travel (and the Tampa dates didn’t go down really). And don’t be afraid of the nosebleed “obstructed view” behind the stage tickets, I got 3 tickets 1 week before the Tampa shows for about $450 each ($575 after fees) and the view is still great, there is only a small part of the show you can’t see and for that you have the screens. And for her ears you can get ear plugs, I got a pack of 3 for less than $10 on amazon for my girls who are 9 and 12 because the 12 year old has sensitive ears and they were perfect. If you do keep checking tickets I hope you find something, it’s so worth it!


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