The Short Boys Are Alright

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Photo by Alex Michele Photography.

When my husband and I first started thinking about having kids, we talked a lot about what they’d be like. Whether we’d have boys or girls, if they’d inherit my husband’s dimples or my eyes, and what they’d be when they grew up. But one thing we knew, beyond a shadow of a doubt, was that our kids would be short. 

Both my husband and I come from relatively short families, but we are by far the shortest at 5’5” and 4’10.5”, respectively. So, taking our genes into consideration, it was not a stretch to assume that our children would fall on the smaller side of the height spectrum. Not that it was something I spent much time thinking about. I just hoped, like most parents-to-be, that our kids would be happy and healthy.

Growing up as a very short girl, I was sometimes teased for my height, but in general, my stature is, at worst, an occasional inconvenience. No, I didn’t make the volleyball team in high school, and I still climb shelves at the grocery store, but I’ve never felt less womanly or capable because of my height. To be honest, I feel like being the smallest person in the room is kinda my thing; and, I’m at the age when looking 10 years younger definitely doesn’t suck. So really, I’ve got it made in the shade (which, coincidently, is much easier to find when you’re short).

I did observe, in hindsight, that I had it much easier than my small male counterparts. But, I didn’t really realize how differently we see short boys until I became a mom to two of them.

“Let him cook in there as long as possible,” my husband joked while I was pregnant with our first son. “He’s going to need all the help he can get.” I had been lamenting about the final days of pregnancy and was growing impatient waiting to meet our new addition. 

“An extra week is not going to make him tall,” I had snapped. “And who cares how big he is anyway?” Obviously, those pregnancy hormones were raging, and I had gone into full mama bear mode. 

“You’re right,” the smart husband agreed. “He’ll be perfect no matter what size he is.”

And he was. All 6 lbs. 11 oz. of him was the most perfect thing I’d ever seen.

We were amazingly blessed that our oldest was healthy and consistently met those age-related milestones. And yet, every doctor’s visit seemed to end with an apologetic report that our son was “still only in the 10th percentile for height.” Instead of just a fact, like having dark hair or dimples (he did get those after all!), lack of height was already being addressed as a negative. Like he was failing a test he didn’t realize he’d been taking.

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Photo by Alex Michele Photography.

But, as it turns out, there are plenty of parents who do feel that shortness for their children is a negative, especially with boys. In the podcast This American Life, the episode “Small Things Considered” addresses what one doctor refers to as an “epidemic” of parents seeking to give their children growth hormones. These daily injections cost tens of thousands of dollars, and may only give children an extra inch or two at best. But, an increasing number of parents are willing to invest insane amounts of money and potentially risk their son’s health because of the perceived advantage extra height will get them.

One of the parents interviewed says, about her son getting growth hormone injections: 

“Most of his, probably, peers don’t know. His close friends know. But for a girl, it’s cute if she’s short and petite. But for a guy, it kind of says something about your masculinity. So I just wanted to protect him for whatever reasons — short-term, long-term.”

Um, WHAT? So, instead of building up the confidence of these “shorter-than-average” boys and helping them succeed with the perfectly abled bodies they were born with, these parents are opting to alter them. They’re essentially treating shortness like a disease that has to be remedied.

We’ve been taking a slightly different approach in our house. Conversations about height are not avoided but are mainly factual. We have had a few interesting pros and cons conversations as well, which led to my son stating that being smaller made him faster because “you know, less wind resistance.” 

During our most recent visit to the pediatrician’s office with both kiddos, the doctor (after reviewing their growth charts), assessed that my oldest was tracking in that 10th percentile range and would probably be “around Dad’s height.” And I swear, you’d have thought my sweet child had just won the lottery, he was so excited. He’s obviously aware that his dad isn’t tall, but it didn’t matter — he was thrilled to measure up to someone he truly looks up to.

As far as we’re concerned, being short is just part of who we are. And, we’ll continue to reinforce that to our kiddos as well.

So, we’re not worried about our short boys. They’re going to be alright.

Born and raised in Tallahassee, FL, Blair took a leap of faith in 2018 and moved her family to Jacksonville to pursue her dream job. She's been enjoying the change of scenery and beach proximity with her supportive husband, Kevin, and their two boys, Donovan and Emory, who they lovingly refer to as "Night and Day." An alum of Florida State University (Go Noles!), Blair started her college career in Music Education, ended it in English Literature and Communications, and eventually found herself in the world of marketing and design. She's now been immersed in agency life for over a decade, and can't imagine it any other way! A self-proclaimed extrovert, Blair loves meeting new people and is excited to find her "mom friends" in Jacksonville. She balances her love of food and drink with the occasional workout class, and is always planning the next "fun thing" for her family to enjoy.


  1. Yes! Well written! I have twin boys. While both are on the smaller side, one distinctly has always hovered in the 5%-10% (if lucky!). We did our due diligence with medical workups to be sure we weren’t missing an endocrine, gastrointestinal or orthopedic issue. But I knew these would be normal, because I married into a smaller stature family…of brilliant engineers! While things are not always rosy (he’s been nicknamed an elf by classmates at Christmas time), there are silver linings. They are on a medically prescribed icecream diet to get calories up. How lucky is that, I wish I had the same diet! But we are very frank and honest with both of them. We likely don’t have professional athletics on our horizon, and they are fine with that. Thanks for sharing.

  2. I’m one of those moms considering hormone injections for my son. It’s not a decision I am taking lightly. But there is a medical reason beyond genetics as to why my son isn’t growing. He’s not “small”. He has completely fallen off the growth curve. His body doesn’t create growth hormone on his own. The work up prior to making this decision is extensive. And making the decision for your child who will now require daily shots is daunting. This isn’t about vanity. If you child is vitamin deficient you give them a vitamin. My child is growth hormone deficient so why would I not give him growth hormones?! And yes, it is very expensive. Which makes the decision that much harder. My 4 year old has an MRI next Friday to make sure there isn’t an issue with his pituitary gland. Would a tumor be better than growth hormone injections? Ugh – this article breaks my heart. All the best to you and your family. But don’t pass judgement so quickly on those trying to figure out why their kiddos aren’t “measuring up”.

  3. While I found this article to be a good read, I do believe that you are a tad bit misinformed. Some children are definitely a product of their genes, that’s a given. However, some children like my son produce very little to no growth hormone. For example: anything under 10 ng/mL for a child is considered to be abnormal. They should be in the 10-50 ng/mL range. That means they are producing and growing within normal limits. My son produced 1.8 ng/mL at his peak. He wasn’t growing at all. Naturally the doctors wanted to start treatment but I struggled with giving my child something man made as most parents do. Until it was explained to me like this. If your child wasn’t producing insulin, you wouldn’t think twice about treating this child for their diabetes. Thyroid deficiency, same. So why would you deny a child growth hormone and not give them their best fighting chance to grow. Your children are probably destined to be of short stature, but some children are actually missing something that their body is supposed to have. Many of us are not out for vein, many us of are just giving our children what they are intended to have.


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