Dear Parent,
You’re standing at the edge of a big, exciting milestone. Preschool is around the corner, and if your heart feels a mix of pride, nerves, and a million questions, I want you to know: You’re not alone.
As a Preschool Director and early childhood educator, I’ve welcomed so many first-time preschoolers (and just as many first-time preschool parents) into the classroom. And here’s what I’ve learned: Readiness isn’t about checking every skill off a list. It’s about creating a foundation of confidence, comfort, and connection.
So, if you’re wondering how to set your child up for preschool success without the pressure or perfectionism, here are a few heartfelt tips from me to you:
1. Practice independence in the everyday moments.
The small things matter. Let your child try putting on their shoes, cleaning up toys, or washing hands by themselves (even if it takes longer). These little tasks build confidence and a sense of capability, both of which help them thrive in a classroom setting.
2. Build social-emotional muscles at home.
Learning to take turns, share, or talk about feelings doesn’t happen overnight. Start with short playdates, trips to the library, or even board games at home. When you model and talk about kindness, patience, and “big feelings,” you’re giving your child tools they’ll use every day in preschool.
3. Talk about school in a positive, gentle way.
Instead of saying “Are you ready for school?” try, “I wonder what kinds of fun things you’ll do at school,” or “Your teacher is so excited to meet you.” This shifts the conversation from pressure to curiosity and anticipation.
4. Establish a predictable routine.
Whether preschool starts at 8 a.m. or 9 a.m., try adjusting bedtime and morning routines a few weeks ahead. Practice waking up, getting dressed, eating breakfast, and leaving the house around the time they would for school. Familiar routines can ease morning jitters and improve their overall behavior throughout the day because they know what to expect.
5. Find the right preschool fit for your child.
Every child is different, and so is every preschool experience. Some thrive in a busy classroom, while others feel more comfortable in smaller, home-based, or hybrid programs. And in today’s world, even online preschool is a real, effective option, especially for families who value flexibility, a gentler pace, or live in areas with limited access to in-person programs.
As the director of an online preschool, I’ve seen firsthand how meaningful virtual learning can be for preschoolers when it’s built with love, structure, and intention. Whatever path you choose, trust your instincts and seek out programs that support your child’s social-emotional development, creativity, and joy of learning.
6. Support yourself, too.
This transition isn’t just for your little one; it’s big for you, too. Whether it’s your first time letting go or your third child heading to school, your feelings are valid. Talk to other parents, ask questions, and give yourself the same grace you give your child.
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Remember: Perfection isn’t the goal. Your child doesn’t need to know all their letters or be fully potty trained by the first day. What they do need is your encouragement, a sense of security, and the space to grow into this new adventure.
Preschool is not a finish line; it’s a beginning. And you’re doing an incredible job preparing your little one for it.
Our “Dear Parent, From a Teacher” series helps parents obtain the tools and insight to ensure a successful school year for their children. If you are a teacher who wishes to write a guest blog for this series, please email your topic to [email protected].
About the Author
Nyree-Dawn Jean-Baptiste is the Founder & Educational Director of Soaring Hearts Preschool, a hybrid early childhood program offering both local and online preschool options nationwide with a strong focus on social-emotional learning. As an experienced preschool director, military spouse, and advocate for whole-child development, Nyree-Dawn is passionate about helping families navigate the early years with confidence and care. Learn more at soaringheartspreschoolclub.com or connect on Instagram @soaringheartspreschool.
