Years ago, before I became a mom, I noticed a memo posted on a woman’s fridge. The memo read: take a shower. I couldn’t believe my eyes. What?! You need a memo to remember to take a shower? Seriously? I was so bewildered. This woman must be crazy! That was the only explanation I could come up with.
Now that I have kids I realize there’s another explanation. She wasn’t a crazy woman, she was a mother. In fact, somedays I’m tempted to write memos to shower, eat, drink, and pee! As parents we often focus so much on taking care of our children, that we forget to take care of ourselves. We all know parenthood is about making sacrifices, but where do we draw the line? How much can we sacrifice before our own well-being is at risk? Does our own happiness even matter once we become parents? I believe it does. I see two main reasons:
Reason #1: The oxygen mask rule
Much like the oxygen mask rule on airplanes, it’s important to take care of ourselves so we can effectively help our children. If our own physical or mental health goes down the drain, where does that leave our kids?
Reason #2: Lead by example
Our children are always watching us and following our lead. It’s important for us to set a good example by showing them that your own happiness matters, even once you have children.
So whether it be something as simple as a pedicure or as crazy as a childless vacation (gasp!)…do things that make you happy. And even if you don’t write yourself a memo to shower, at least write yourself one that says “remember ME”.